Real Life Advice: 36 Lessons I’ve Learnt In 36 Years
As my next birthday approaches (gonna be 37 and STILL fabulous!!) I thought I would share 36 lessons I’ve learnt in 36 years. Life advice from each year of life so far.
Now if you’re new here ( hi I’m Sarah, welcome!) you would not know that I’ve had a lot of interesting experiences and they each have taught me so much.
From living in another country for 6 years, healing past assault, starting over from scratch to starting multiple businesses and achieving my goal of being a full time entrepreneur and so much more.
Here’s my real, uncut life advice. My hope is that at least one of these gems helps you heal, pushes you, inspires you or gives you the confirmation you needed to step out on faith and just do the damn thing!
Life Advice You Need To Hear
Your parents did the best they could. It’s very hard to show or give a person (even your own child) love, affection etc if they were never shown how.
Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me……..is straight bullshit! Names hurt. So be careful what you say to people and how you treat them.
The so called “nerd” or “loser” that you bullied or sat back and laughed at when they were getting bullied by others, may grow up to be your boss one day.
No matter how hard or embarrassing it may seem now. It’s not the hardest or most embarrassing thing you’ll have to face. Trust me, you have a lot more living to do.
Practice seeing the good in all of your experiences from now. There’s always something good you can take away from every situation. Once the dust clears, you’ll see it.
You don’t have to rush, boys aren’t going anywhere.
Question things you don’t understand until it makes sense to you, for you.
Your parents don’t always know what’s best for you. More often then not they just want to protect you from making mistakes that they made or want to see you achieve goals they didn’t. Make sure you pursue paths that resonate with you and share your thoughts with them.
Don’t be afraid of looking stupid if it means you get to try something new.
It’s early but society is going to make you feel like you’re running out of time and that you have to have everything figured out before university. It’s all a lie.
No means no. It wasn’t your fault. I promise you will heal from this with time.
Life Advice For Your 20s
Forgive yourself and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable again.
People aren’t always as they seem. Pay attention to their actions, not words.
You don’t have to do or be one thing for they rest of your life. However don’t focus on more than one to two things at a time. If you spread yourself too thin it will feel like it’s taking a very long time to reach your goals. Laser focus is key.
Just start. There will never be a perfect time.
You will be a completely different person in a decade. So don’t sweat the small stuff, enjoy your journey.
Move in silence.
The people you love the most are the ones that are going to hurt you the most. Sometimes without even realizing it. You’ll be ok, I promise.
He’s not the one. If you are comprising yourself all the time for the relationship to work. He’s not the one.
Starting over doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
If you haven’t started already, now’s the time to start making decisions based on what you really want for yourself. Not your parents or friends. You.
Stop caring so much about what other people think about you.
Life Advice For Your 30s
Hustle culture is toxic. You can’t sleep when your dead because your dead and it’s probably because you didn’t get enough sleep and aren’t taking care of your health in pursuit of stuff.
If you aren’t married with kids and own your own home by now, you are NOT a failure.
If the idea of getting married, having kids or owning a home does not spark joy, you don’t have to want those things.
Stop sharing your business with everyone. Most people really don’t care that much and are secretly hoping you fail….miserably.
I hope you stopped doing this in your 20s, however in case you haven’t, stop getting advice about your relationship from your single (sometimes bitter) friends.
Be a seeker of truth. Don’t be afraid to question what you’ve been taught and believe.
Make self care a priority, not an after thought.
Learn to make your money work for you. Create a plan to stop trading your time for money.
Learn to say No
Learn to set boundaries and walk away from people who continue to cross them
The Divine has always had your back. Everything is truly working out for your good in the end.
Last but certainly not least…….
Karma doesn’t miss
As you achieve your goals and live the life you’ve worked so hard for you will have haters, sometimes within your circle or family. It just comes with progress. Embrace it and keeping doing you.
Keep your circle small
BONUS TIP: Gratitude is the key to unlocking everything you desire
Remember that this is your journey. Only you can truly decide how you want to experience it. Take some or all of these gems of life advice and never forget you are loved and supported. Share this post with a friend!